“You Are an Idiot If You Run After Women” – Timaya Slams Nigerian Men in Brutal Reality Check

In a country where male validation is often tied to how many women a man can chase, a bold statement like “You are an idiot if you run after women” coming from a Nigerian music icon like Timaya is bound to stir controversy and it has.

Known for his raw lyrics, unapologetic masculinity, and dramatic evolution from the “Plantain Boy” to a mature and spiritual father of four, Timaya’s words carry weight. Whether you like him or not, you can’t ignore him.

So when he bluntly told young men to stop running after women and start running after their purpose, the internet exploded. And not surprisingly, it divided opinions across gender lines.

But was he wrong?

In this deep, controversial, and unfiltered breakdown, we’ll explore:

What exactly Timaya said and why
The culture of hyper-masculinity and womanizing in Nigeria
How the “run-woman” lifestyle is ruining men mentally and financially
The trap of validation culture
Whether Nigerian women are complicit or victims
Why this statement may be the hard truth many men need to hear

What Did Timaya Actually Say?

During a recent Instagram Live session, Timaya went off-script while addressing young men who idolize fast life, flashy cars, and endless women. He said:

“Any man wey dey chase woman up and down no get sense. You be idiot. If you like, quote me anywhere. Women no be achievement. Go and chase money, chase growth. Women go come later.”

The bluntness, the tone, the insult it was pure Timaya energy. Brutal. Unfiltered. But not entirely wrong.

The Nigerian Man’s Obsession with Women: Rooted in Insecurity?

Let’s face facts: in Nigeria, a man’s worth is often judged by how many women he has slept with or how much attention he commands from the opposite sex.

You’re 30 and single? “Guy, why you never marry?”
You’re dating one girl? “You dey dull. Try get variety.”
You’re celibate or focused? “You dey carry Bible too much.”

From beer parlors to campus hostels, the pressure on men to be sexual hunters is cultural, generational, and toxic.

But here’s the kicker: most of these men are broke, depressed, and directionless.

“You dey toast three girls, but your account dey red. Who you dey deceive?”

Women Are Expensive: Emotionally, Financially & Spiritually

Let’s stop pretending chasing women in 2025 is a full-time job that requires:

Money (gifts, hair, rent, dates, data)
Time (texting, talking, arguing, performing)
Emotional energy (jealousy, heartbreak, pressure)
Reputation management (double dating and lies)

A man who is financially unstable yet spends every weekend buying shawarma for slay queens is not just foolish he’s self-destructive.

“You can’t be planning to relocate to Canada and still be sponsoring three babes’ wigs in Lekki.”

When Chasing Women Becomes a Lifestyle: The “Lagos Bad Boy” Syndrome

Let’s talk about Lagos — the epicenter of Nigerian hyper-masculinity.

From Mainland to VI, you’ll find thousands of guys whose sole ambition in life is to look fresh, drive Benz, and date baddies.

They don’t have:

Investments
Long-term goals
Emotional intelligence
Basic respect for themselves

But they have:

3 phones
Loud perfume
Fake designer belts
A hunger for validation through women

“They’re living for likes, not legacies.”

Timaya’s point? That life is a scam.

The Psychological Toll of the “Run Women” Lifestyle

No one talks about the emotional damage:

Low self-esteem masked by sexual conquests
Insecurity from rejection
Addiction to attention and external validation
Empty pockets and depression when the thrill fades

Many men are slowly dying inside but covering it with more girls, more drinks, and more fake confidence.

“If women are your drug, eventually, the high will kill you.”

Women Are Not the Problem — But They’re Not the Goal Either

Here’s the twist. Timaya didn’t bash women. He bashed the obsession with them.

He said what most successful men know but won’t admit publicly:

Women are attracted to value
If you chase them, they’ll run
If you chase purpose, they’ll follow

The idea that “women will come later” is not misogynistic. It’s realistic. Ask anyone who became successful women showed up after.

Are Women Taking Advantage of This Culture?

Let’s talk about the flip side. Some women are fully aware that men seek validation through them, and they milk it:

Free food
Soft life
Monthly allowances
Dubai trips

The “babe economy” in Nigeria is booming. And many women don’t need jobs anymore they monetize male stupidity.

So when a man starts treating a woman like a trophy, guess what? She acts like one expensive and fragile.

The Truth Hurts: Why Timaya’s Message Is Triggering Men

Let’s be real many Nigerian men are offended not because he’s wrong, but because he hit a nerve.

Timaya exposed the uncomfortable truth that many men waste their youth chasing short-term pleasure and end up:

Broke
Bitter
Broken
Blaming women

Meanwhile, their mates are:

Building businesses
Learning tech
Getting citizenships
Owning property

And when the “fine boy” glow fades, they have nothing left but regret.

Elevate or Simp: The Choice Is Yours

What Timaya is preaching is not celibacy it’s discipline. Self-mastery. The ability to delay gratification and focus on legacy.

Want to attract high-value women? Be a high-value man.
Want to stop begging girls for attention? Level up.
Want peace of mind? Stop sleeping with chaos.

In his own words:

“No be say I no like women, but I don wise. I dey focus now. I dey build. No time to dey carry matter wey no add value.”

Controversial Reactions Online

Here are just a few reactions from social media:

@ObinnaTheReal:

“Timaya just saved many boys’ destinies. But they’ll still ignore him and buy iPhones for girls wey no send.”

@BaddieQueenz:

“He’s mad. Without women, would he be relevant? Rubbish.”

@TechNerdNaija:

“If I had this mindset at 23, I’d be a millionaire now. I spent 2 years chasing an Instagram model who dumped me for a guy in Canada.”

whatsnextng Verdict: Timaya Wasn’t Insulting He Was Warning

Let’s be honest. You can disagree with his tone, but you can’t ignore his truth.

In a country where men are under immense social and economic pressure, the last thing they need is the distraction of meaningless validation. The best version of yourself isn’t found in the bedroom it’s found in your purpose.

So to every young Nigerian man reading this: